Do you ever get so caught up at work, with worries or problems that you lose sight of what’s important to you? Which leads you to reacting awfully in certain situations unintentionally? You then get worked up and worried about it and dwell on that silly moment for days and days after?
Personally, I’m the queen of blocking emotion and walking away. There’s not a lot of bad energy that can truly get to me. Why? Because I simply un-see it in my mind.
Let’s face it, we have all been in situations where we react without thinking. But what we can do, is learn to notice that there are things that we can do which will help us control our emotions to stay calm in frustrating or stressful situations where someone else would flip on their head and act out – not you, I’ve got you!
Here are a couple of techniques that will help you to stay calm in these situations:
- Learn to notice how you feel in certain situations.
Notice when you start to feel clammy, fidgety, tight in the chest, outside of yourself, or any other physical discomfort. The more you practice noticing how you feel physically, the better you will be able to understand and alter your reactions. In time, you will be able to sense when something is emotionally affecting you by noticing these physical feelings and also what situations in particular take you to this point. Take a couple of deep breaths and calm down when you start to feel like this and imagine looking at yourself from the outside. Hold yourself with respect, dignity and class! Remember it won’t last forever, the moment will pass.
- Be aware of when people around you begin to ‘act up’.
Is your friend speaking more quickly, or does she have a flushed face? Are they fidgeting and blinking a lot? As you become aware of physical behaviours that signal stress, you can train yourself to leave that negative feeling with that person.That negative feeling is theirs. Let them have it. Don’t feel like you have too feel like that to. It sounds selfish, but the happiest people in this world are that – selfish, and it’s no bad thing. You HAVE to put yourself first before you can think about helping someone else. If they are negative ALL the time and you are feeling like they are bringing you down, then back off from them a little. You don’t want to surround yourself with draining people and remember if they want your help, they can always come to you! There’s a big difference between someone showing constant negative energy and someone who truly feels low and needs your help. Check the vibeeeee.
- Write about worries.
This will put all your negative thoughts out of your head and on paper (or in notes section in your phone). When worrying is becoming constant, first write down, all of the facts of the situation. Ask yourself; what do I know for sure? Just the facts. Can you see why this is upsetting to you? Next, write the worst possible outcome. After seeing the worst-case scenario, write down the solutions that are available to you. This should make you see that it’s just simply not worth worrying about, or help you to take control of the situation in a way that works positively for you.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt as helpless or worried? You made it through that situation, remember? You will find a solution for today’s worries too.💛
Now, when a stressful situation occurs, you now have the tools and techniques which will help you to react calmly and will stop you from getting worked up. Worrying constantly is so tiring and a complete wasted emotion. So I really hope this helps.🙏🏻💎